I’m from a very maternal family. My mum is a qualified nursery teacher, I had my hand at nannying, one of my sisters was a nanny and my brother worked for the well known charity ‘Kids Company’. You could probably say that working with children was in the blood.
I always knew from a young age that I wanted a family of my own one day. After all, my own family is such a loving one. All of us siblings talk to each other at least once a day- there are SEVEN of us!! We’re all best friends. We share laughter, tears, heartache and love. One of my sisters once described our family as a bunch of bananas…if one gets bruised, the rest bruise too. It’s certainly true.
I was never one of these people that said ‘I’ll get married at this age..and I want babies by the time I’m this age..’ So luckily for me it all just happened at the right time.
After the birth of my first son, I naturally fell into my role. Understandably this isn’t always the case, but for me it felt right. I had guidance from my mum who was the most qualified! My husband frequently said to me at the beginning ‘how do you know what to do?’, to which I always had to say ‘I don’t’. That’s the thing about parenting. There is no guide/ rule book. It’s purely a matter of trying and testing as you go along. A daunting prospect for most, but I think the key is TEAM WORK! We joke all the time about our ‘team Rutherford’ and often high five each other with a little victory ‘whoop’ (saaaaaad huh!).
Having worked previously as a nanny, I always intended on being a full time mummy. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed spending all of my time with Harry one on one and making a very clever, happy and thoughtful little young man. We’re totally in love with one another. When he went off to nursery is was a pull on the heart strings. Up until that point we were inseparable. But he soon found comfort from his new teachers and so leaving me daily became easier.
It was always important to me that we could give Harry a sibling. When I found out I was pregnant with my second son, it was a totally long-awaited blessing. We had a very hard 3 years trying to conceive our second child. He really is a dream. Harry is the BEST big brother and dotes on him. Because there is a 5 year age gap and harry is now in school, I can give all of my attention to Stanley just as I did with his brother.
It’s very exciting being a mother….but also very scary. For now, I’m thoroughly enjoying the ride and take comfort from knowing that harry says our little family is goldilocks and the 3 bears.